IC OOC.. Can you seperate?

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May 28 - Memorial Day

[Isabella Bergiere]

hehe yes I can see why they would do that.

To me Lady Pay is not 'you' she's Lady Pay - I am a bit wary, have engaged her only a few times in awkward social conversation and we have never progressed beyond our otherwise solid, successful working relationship.   

Real Pay on the other hand - rocks 

[RedSnapper Teitelbaum]

One thing that stood out to me in all these posts was how does roleplay make us feel, should we feel it, I believe this factor sometimes blurs the lines, but would I change it, no way. The enjoyment to me personally in my rp when its an emotional/intense scene is for me to feel it, and I strive to create a rp environment for others to feel/experience as much as possible whatever it is we are rping.  But we all do things differently, and no matter how much you embrace what is happening, as lina says, its important to separate the rp character even if it is similar in persona to yourself, to when you step off that stage...

Here is one of my favorite quotes: - (yes and I am an Anais Nin addict)

“If you do not breathe through writing, if you do not cry out in writing, or sing in writing, then don't write, because our culture has no use for it.”  *Anais Nin*

Sometimes it does just take a little while to come down from the rp char, back to reality, and for some whilst they are online this is more difficult for whatever reason, and because we are all living, emotional creatures behind the screen, there will always be differences in the way we do things/go about it.

My ideal ~ keep the passion/intensity/creativity and freedom in the rp to your character, feel it and embrace it, then rp over ~ back to reality, can we do it? yes, enjoy the memories 

Red x

[Anarch Allegiere]

I wish Sl would come up with an option to turn off IM's when you dont want to hear that ping ping ping ping on your computer.

If you got RLV, Melisande could turn them off for you.

[RedSnapper Teitelbaum]

hahaha Anarch that was a good one!  Sure Carter will appreciate 

[Snapper Hollak]

what I dont understand is when someone thinks that their character is real yes the person behind the screen is real but come on when the computer is off line Snapper is off line she is a character that I have created its NOT me, the Im's they dont borther me much its only when someone IM's me and then states they do not like to be IMed well dudh dude whats up with that you IMED me not the other way around ,although sometimes it is the only way to work out some rp sceens , asking the character if they are ok with this or that, when you take it so far that you really and truely believe that you are living that life then hummm, need to step away from the computer.

[Jazzy Seriman]

I am sure most of us have been in a situation where we found it hard to seperate. We are human and humans are generally VERY emotionally driven.

I agree with Carter, I wish IM's could be disabled. Nothing is more annoying then trying to RP and have IM #1)Whiney slave: My Master is ignoring me~sigh,IM #2) Flirty Man: hey baby, let me bend you over the counter, IM #3) Slutty Slave:So Jazzy, how is Mott in the sack? ((LOL yes, it has been asked and yes it makes me laugh...))

There will always be IM's and OOC crap. Maybe Carter needs to make a new role in Treve...Psychologist of Treve!

[dana Tehani]

I personally like IMs.. If any problem in rp where else would we deal with it? I would hate to see us all use the () for it.. It will be a mess. and I do like speaking to few who are friends to me in IM. I think as long as one separates between the two then its okay, its when they mix IC with OOC is the issue and when IC is taken too seriously.

I guess your best bet is try to ignore crazy IMs coming your way or leave a remark to say you are at rp..

lol at psychologist of Treve ;-)

[Adoveea Rau]

Use that famous phrase
"In roleplay* and ignore all IM"s.
They will come to you physically if you keep doing this, because everyone is here for roleplay.

[Hawt Sommer]

I love putting labels on things so they are easily identified.

So I looked up the Antonym for Seperate and came up with only two words.

Unite and Connect

So if I was to point my finger at someone that doesn't seperate and call them a name...  what would that be?

You Connector!

You Uniter!!!

Those really dont have a good ring to them...   But no matter-  I would be crossing over into OOC if I was name calling and labeling people in local chat anyway.

I wonder what SL Gor would be like if there were no IMs?

What would chat rooms be like without Private Messages?

I'm thinking there would be a lot less deceit in world.

What do you call people that can't separate,  yet go after someones lover in game?

What do you call people that can't separate, yet kill characters in game knowing it might effect someone IRL?

Answer? 

[Jazzy Seriman]

I agree, there would be a lot less deceiption and hurt for many people without IM's.

As for what to call those that murder, cheat, lie...well, drama queens and trouble makers. Usually, they see nothing wrong with what they do until someone turns the tables and does it to them. Suddenly, the world is full of injustice and they scream from the rooftops pointing fingers and name calling..and dragging the rest of us into the mess as well.

In my opinion, it is the bitter, jaded and lonely souls of real life that come online and bully others with their "RP". From what I have seen, they are driven by OOC motives and issues, those ooc problems surface in their RP and, as I posted earlier, those that are extremely unhappy OOC (whether it be with their real life or the direction their story has gone)...well, the unhappy and the bitter shines through in their RP.

I avoid those people. I log on to escape and have fun, not to be bogged down with someone elses troubles. Sorry if that seems cold and insensitive, I love helping people and I have no trouble whatsoever being a friend to those in need. At some point, those in need...have to WANT to help themselves.

[Mandy Carbenell]

IC my char can be a coldhearted b*tch, and usually adored by...slaves! That's right, even to the point where my first girl called me Mistress Theresa, I tend to care for slaves a lot...as FW that's not good but I've been a slaver too long and I let it slide into my characters attitude. Although I have to say that we all have our RL personalities shine through somehow. I am however lucky that I made some really great friends here whom I met in RL...although some are my worst enemies IC..so yes, I can seperate.

[Snapper Hollak]

now that is knowing what the difference is and I give you a hand , Ohh by the way Jazzy should we IM Mott and ask him how you are in the sack theheheheheheh

[Liliana Aluveaux]

It IS a bit unsettling when someone IMs me when I am being very FW like and pretty much says, "WTF why are you so mean?" Its just like... huh?

[Mandy Carbenell]

It IS a bit unsettling when someone IMs me when I am being very FW like and pretty much says, "WTF why are you so mean?" Its just like... huh?

I know, right? I usually get IM's saying something like, "Hey, I am just being polite...can you at least behave?" But hey, my char is just like that...and I love it! shhh..

[Malcomb Danitz]

In line with all of this, I jsut had some one I have known for months, on very good terms, unfriend me because of events in the role play.  Sigh.  So now I seem to have lost a friend, rather than enjoyed an intense PR situation.  We all do need to stop and think about this sort of thing.  If there is stress in the role ply, it does not immediately have to cross over to the 'other side' of the OOC relationship.  But it takes a lot of maturity and thought to do that.