Gor and second life...

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May 28 - Memorial Day

[nina Barineaux]

Second life and Gor has been an emotional journey for me, mainly
because  my real life was too involved in it. I won't go into too much detail, just the basics.

I moved into my boyfriends, I began to be isolated from society, he mentally and physically abused me. The comfort, the time in sl when he wasn't around I always found made me happier.

I am sure I can relate to some with sl, when you're vulnerable and unhappy in real life. Some escape to the  vitual world, and Gor fascinated me.


Moving ahead, I finally escaped the constant abuse, and now I don't feel the need to be in sl anymore or have a strong interest in Gor. I have cancelled my account recently in sl, and I'd like to thank this website, the people who make this website. I hope all of you maintain a healthy relationship with sl. To the encounters I have had with other sl goreans out there thank you, the experience I shall never forget. I wish you all the best....

[Randall Reich]

For many, Second Life, and more specifically Second Life Gor, is just a game, a fun diversion no different than watching TV or reading a good book.  For others it is exactly what you described:  a coping mechanism.  It can be an effective means of dealing with stress or an untenable RL situation that causes constant pain.  From that aspect it can be a useful tool. 

On the other hand, I wont name names, but I also know someone whose mother passed away RL and they were back online literally right after the funeral, playing away like nothing happened.  I tried to encourage the person to log off and go be with their loved ones, their children in particular, but to no avail.  To me that is an unhealthy way of simply deferring grief and robbing those around us of our presence.  Someone close to us dies and instead of talking about it or hugging the people we love all we want to do is go check out and play SL Gor. 

I think it's like Advil.  A little can take the edge off the pain (RL), maybe enhance our RL, but an overdose can destroy your liver and kill you (loss of relationships, job, etc.). 

[Toihva Svenson]

On the other hand, I wont name names, but I also know someone whose mother passed away RL and they were back online literally right after the funeral, playing away like nothing happened.  I tried to encourage the person to log off and go be with their loved ones, their children in particular, but to no avail.  To me that is an unhealthy way of simply deferring grief and robbing those around us of our presence.  Someone close to us dies and instead of talking about it or hugging the people we love all we want to do is go check out and play SL Gor. 

Some just may be addicted to the game, it has happened and in essence I had my wife choose the game over me.  I had a gf who would complain about lack of RL friends, always complaining about doing nothing but SL.   Tried to get her to do things, even her favorite hobbies before we started dating. Would last a week and would be back online playing, and complaining about her RL.

To nina, best of luck to you in the real world.  Glad that you got out of the bad relationship and hope things continue to improve for you.

[Elle Couerblanc]

I hope that your new life is full of nothing but happiness.  Take care.