Cross Gender Characters

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[Keira Wilder]

My Mistress, i think we cant divide that. Cross Gender is closely connected to voice chat.

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Agreed partly, but the discussion is drifting into the direction of "voice good, voice bad"... which has nothing to do with Cross-gender-RP. So stick to the Topic please.
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[Laja DeCuir]

*smiles to Keira and nods...You are absolutely right and I will try to stay close to the topic above but anyway I think it is just ..hm..name it point where lots of things come together or an example how sl or rp or gor works. So to me it is important to distinguish a lil.

Lets see...some really good points about that genderswapping thing have been already said ...I think it is not that easy to split...we have the rp-setting on one hand and I totally agree, if someone feels comfortable in the role he/she is in and plays it good - so what? Nobody probably wouldn't even realise that there is a different gender behind - as San mentioned some didn't noticed about it month over month
But my experience in sl isn't only the rp-part and I am sorry but there is really one thing I don't believe anymore after the experience I made and after the lots of talks I had with others about it, after so many people who were convinced that they always keep the boarder..sl is far away from being "only" a game.
Who is still believing in this distortion after month of staying in sl? In my opinion everybody is in sl with the heart and soul behind the computer/avatar some of us more some less, some forget their rl about all that and really do live in first row their second life. Whatever each person may longing for, a compensation for rl-social life, a relationship, just a place to get a sort of rid of our day to day life.
I think this is one point why we are not always able to split ourselfs, this might be the reason why ooc and ic is mixed so often and this is maybe the reason why there might be a point when the "real" gender of the person your share so much time with becomes interessting to you. Just cuz after a while you may become more and more curious about the head and body behind the computer/avatar totally independend to what you might have searched when you pop in here. So I agree there is not need to tell everybody in the first instance who I really am but as closer as someone will come to me or I will let someone come to me it is fairly normal to have more interest about the human behind the virtual thing. ...well latest this would be the point when I would expect honesty, which doesn't mean that the otherone has to tell me everything but what he/she tells should be no lie. To me this point won't be when you have sex..some people have sex in their rp and they stick close to the role it is an ic-part to them so no need to get "undressed" at all..would be the same in rl you won't tell an ons all about what's going on in your life so why should you do it at this point, will you?
Hm..I fear I could go one with my thoughts about that but I don't want to bore you so I leave it with that for now*smiles warmly

[BellaW Shan]

Greetings

just a qustion please with Cross Gender Characters  best be up front and honest about it. my qustion is what happens if one person is  straight, person lover was a cross gender  never told them . wonder where trust well be .  hope dont sound confusing here
havent been well in real.

be well

bella W>

[Beast Scarborough]

I agree with alot of what has been said, I only read the first page. Reading all the pages isn't really needed. The deffinition from m-w.com is this:

role-play 
  


Main Entry: role–play 
Pronunciation: \ˈrōl-ˌplā, -ˈplā\
Function: verb
Date: 1949
transitive verb
1 : to act out the role of
2 : to represent in action <students were asked to role–play the thoughts and feelings of each character — R. G. Lambert>
intransitive verb
: to play a role

:with that being shown and everyone knows the deffinition of role-play I have to say that for about 5-6 months I believe it was I had a friend that I met when they were on a female character then when they told me that they were a male in rl it really didn't affect our friendship at all. When you put yourself in an rp your merely playing a role. Is it not in our past where women were not allowed to play roles in plays and the like and women roles were played by...here's the shocker prepare to gasp...men?

Insulting, as more then likely they saw it, a sim that someone calls "home" can be a big hit to them if they look at it like "They just insulted the sim I live on that equals them insulting me!". Which in most cases is far from the truth...but then where would the fun be without ego ^_~.

Onto the rl relationship through sl, I myself met my girlfriend through sl. I believe if you have no intentions of furthering the relationship it should be known from the begining that you do not wish to have anything in rl.

As a wrap up:

You want to rp a female when your a male or male when your a female then more power to you! Just remember to rp to your fullest. If people can't accept that you enjoy the challange of the rp, weither it may be cross gender cross species or anything of the like then that is their issue and you should just forget about them and their like to expand their knowledge of things.

Make things known at the start of any type of relationship what exactly you are looking for that way you wont get hit with a "OMG! WHY DIDN"T YOU TELL ME YOU WEREN'T (insert sex here)!?!?"

But hey what do I know I haven't been able to be in gor let alone sl for a few months ^_~

"The one who overcomes egotism rids themselves of the most stubborn obstacle that blocks the way to all true greatness and all true happiness."

[Azura Cuttita]

[i once played a male avatar for about 3 days before giving it up. I am not the Master-type of person, I am more of a natural slave]

[Pia Qi`]

I RP'd a Gorean male for a long time before RPing Pia.  In general I didn't wander around saying, "Hi, I'm Gor Dude, but IRL I'm a mom with kids!!" because I think this would adversely affect the RP.  People who I was close to know that I'm a woman IRL, but there's no way I was going to make it common knowledge.  To my knowledge, no one that I didn't tell figured out on their own, so I think I do Gor Dude pretty well.  I did have to flee a sim once though because there was this kajira that was DETERMINED to have her way with me and I so wasn't going there, even in a casual, "hi I'm a paga slut, take me now!" kind of way.

I haven't met any of you in Gor Dude avie or as pia, so everyone rest easy.

I really enjoyed playing a Gor Dude.  The thing that made me stop was the advent of voice.  I was standing around in some earth voice area trying out the voice feature when it first came on, and more than one person had fits.  It seems there's a pretty substantial population of people who believe that the only women who play cross gender do so because they're lesbians who want to seduce and deceive straight women.  I had no interest in seducing anyone or being deceptive. But when I'm playing Gor Dude, I'd like to keep the RP wall up.  Gor Dude is who I would be if I were a Gorean male.  We can argue all day if that has any validity. The important thing for me is, when you RP with me as Gor Dude, is it good RP?

Lastly ===>  So not doing any SL-Sexxor stuff as a guy.  Ewwwh. No.

[Talia Mayako]

As long as its in RP and not in a relationship.. then its ok by me.  Personally, I would like to know but its not my business unless you try to get me under the furs!

[Laja DeCuir]

hm...this is really an interessting topic to me and I acclaim all your point of views posted here in an unconcealed manner.
A questions which occurs to me every now and then is if there are differences between male and female roleplayers - means: is it more common for males to choose to play another gender or the other way around? Would be interessting to see your votes, that's why I thought about to add a poll.